Now, this doesn't apply to things for my job, promises I make to people or things my children need. I'm not an asshole.
No, I'm talking about stuff I *should* do, things I make lists of which to do, things other people (most likely my husband) would really like for me to do.
Point of fact - I've had the idea for this post for 2 weeks, but hadn't written it. I'm actually struggling to keep writing because I'm being tempted by this Kingdom Keepers book sitting here with only 100 pages left to be read.
I decided to see if I could be RESPONSIBLE for a week. Do all my housekeeping, child rearing, life-supporting duties bestowed upon me as a SAHM. All of it, when and how it was supposed to be done.
MONDAY: I was a freaking rock star. Loads and loads of laundry. Ran 3 miles. Goodwill stuff gathered. Rooms tidied. The SHEETS were washed, for goodness sake. 4 sets, replaced back on the beds before bedtime. Except for the kid in the top bunk. Momma don't climb up there.
Outside housework, I attended a book fair planning meeting and then covered for my kid's teacher so she could attend a luncheon. I shopped for fave snacks & beverages for teachers so I would be ready for staff appreciation week.
People were fed dinner. I attended a meeting at church. I read to my children before bed.
Monday found me falling into my clean sheets completely exhausted but secure in the knowledge that I was a bad ass of responsibility.
TUESDAY: Tuesday was Monday's toothless whore of a sister as far as wife / mom goes. I teach preschool that day and was on for an extra hour of lunch bunch that afternoon.
I don't believe anything got cleaned that day, not even me or the kids. Hasty dinner (probably hot dogs) before I hustled the youngest 2 off to church class while I worked in the nursery. I was responsible, but not for anything related to my family.
WEDNESDAY: This may as well have been Running With Scissors Day.
I started out super responsible by meeting with my oldest son and his middle school teacher about why he's being such a jerk about his homework and how I can
I hit the elementary school to work on book fair stuff with my Wonder Twin friend and within minutes she had me laughing and feeling so much lighter. By the time we left, hours later, she had shown me where the good candy was stashed in the media center and we were daring each other to pick up the mystery phone we found in the workroom. (Good thing we didn't. It's the school loudspeaker. Haaayyyyy...)
The mood swing brought out my inner Scarlett O'Hara and it was decided that everything, including my 5 mile run, could wait until tomorrow.
It was business as usual the rest of the week. Got stuff done as necessary. Anything non-vital would get done if and when it suited me. At most, I got in two days of legit responsibility. TWO.
A new week came and with it tons of laundry. I thought about the sheets. Didn't I just wash those?
I'd like to think that I am as responsible as I need to be. People are cared for. Our house is not a wreck. There are clean clothes and food. I get them and myself where we need to be when we need to be there. Sure, I can improve, but I need to try not to expect Stepford level of myself and then fall apart when I don't make it. But that's really hard for my personality which essentially has 2 speeds - full out or dead stop.
How do you manage all your responsibilities? Where is your "good enough" line?